Why?????????

[RoseofSharon]

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Ok This is a question that has crossed the lips of every mother who has ever lost a child, and yet after 6 thousand years we still seem to be able to provide few to no answers......

You look around and there are so many women for whom it is so easy to get pregnant and to have children, yet during the last ten years I was not blessed that way, (although I wanted children), and back I think it was 6 years ago, but I am not sure of the exact year (was 6 or 7 years ago), I miscarried a child, the only one which I can say to any degree of accuracy that I was pregnant. So my question is at least three fold: 1. We are told that before we are born, even before we are conceived God knows us, and 2. God forms us while we are still in the womb, 3. it seems as if the wicked are having children like rabbits, and yet it seems as if Christian women have so many problems getting pregnant - why should it be, and why would God allow a child to be lost in the womb, before it even has a chance to live and have any kind of life outside of the mother?
What possible good can come from losing a child so early?
I just can't help asking why it was allowed to be taken from me...........

I'm sorry for complaining - and disclaimer Yes I know that my ex and I were in sin at the time, and that atleast was not in God's order, for we were not married (He was the one who refused to marry, not me).

[dgbygrace]

Rose, I am so sorry for your pain.

I am going to pray on this before I get back.  But please know you are cared about. 

[tsth]

Dear RoS,

Such a difficult question.  So many things that we have yet to understand.  But, we have to know that for whatever reason, these things will be used in our lives to minister in some way to someone else further down the road.  Our heartache will be helpful healing for another...in ways that we don't understand now.  I am truly sorry for your loss.  And I know that sometimes it just helps to talk about it and vent our heartache.  I know that nothing will replace your child, so treasure the fact that you will see her/him in heaven and God will make all things clear to you.  In the meantime, don't discount what God has in mind for your future and maybe what God spared your child from by going ahead and bringing him/her home to wait for you.  We just don't know "why", and it can be frustrating.

I'm sorry.     :(

In His Love,
Suzanne

[me2lord]

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 1. We are told that before we are born, even before we are conceived God knows us, 2. God forms us while we are still in the womb,

3. it seems as if the wicked are having children like rabbits, and yet it seems as if Christian women have so many problems getting pregnant - why should it be, and why would God allow a child to be lost in the womb, before it even has a chance to live and have any kind of life outside of the mother?
What possible good can come from losing a child so early?
I just can't help asking why it was allowed to be taken from me...........

I'm sorry for complaining - and disclaimer Yes I know that my ex and I were in sin at the time, and that atleast was not in God's order, for we were not married (He was the one who refused to marry, not me).
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The Lord had his reasons we are not privy to them.  Though the Lord is good and his perfect will for man  has  often kept some thing from us all in one manner or another.  As with David when the Lord took his and Bathsheba's firstborn, it was God's will.   Hopefully the baby for both you and David will be given life in the kingdom and be able to be raised there as there will still be physical people and children along with those given eternal life.   lol   I hope this is the will of God on this matter for you.  But these are my thoughts only....for the Lord he knows all these things to come.

In Christ's love
   

[peacemaker]

 

I know, been trying for one for over 10 years, and it took me 5 the last time I had the daughter I talk about.  I havent had a die, sorry for that, my heart goes out to you, big time!

 

[RoseofSharon]

Thank you ladies fo your answers. I keep thinking I've dealt with it and I'm ok, and then it'll come back with full force. Somedays it's a comfort knowing I'll have my child restored to me in the kingdom and others I just want to scream and say that it's not just unfair, but that it's down right wrong that my child was taken away before it even lived. Oh I can rationalise that at ast the ex only screwed me over and didn't have a chance to screw up a
our kid but it doesn't fill the void that is left.  My only comfort is that I will not only have my child but I'll also have my mother in the kingdom, and what better place to grow up than the kingdom where My child will be able to sit on Jesus knee physically something you and I can only imagine, and yet I've been thinking recently, the very things I cared about and would have done almost anything to protect have been taken from me. That is the man I love, and the child I wanted. I Can't help but feel the pain and the lonliness at times, though I know the Lord is with me.

[TurnFromEvilAndLive]

These are hard things to endure, painful. I wanted so badly to have another child too.
I had a miscarriage about 12 yrs ago, but I still have faith that even Sarah bore
in her old age! Nothing is impossible with God, nothing.

In the meantime, I personally believe that God uses these situations for our own
good. The painful things are like a tool He uses to soften us and shape us according
to His liking... and we can also comfort others who are sufferning as we have
suffered.   

I believe I will see my child again at the resurrection. Our very hairs on our heads
are numbered, how much moreso the miscarried child? I also believe that God allowed
this to happen for a good reason... perhaps something I was unaware of.
 

[dgbygrace]

Rose and Kim and Lauren and Suzanne.

My heart hurts for you and I know this pain to.  I lost a baby.

I am praying that me posting about my little grandson is not hurting anyone, and if it is I will of course stop right away.

I love you both.

[tsth]

I didn't mean to imply that I had also lost a child, but rather was speaking of my own losses in general.  They are all painful and for a purpose, to each of us.

 

In His Love,
Suzanne

[dgbygrace]

Yes they are sister.  Amen 

[RoseofSharon]

 

BTW I don't know about anyone else but personally speaking Dianne - Don't you dare stop posting about your grandson! We wanna know all the details, even enjoy them vicariously here!!!!!

[TurnFromEvilAndLive]

Rose and Kim and Lauren and Suzanne.

My heart hurts for you and I know this pain to.  I lost a baby.

I am praying that me posting about my little grandson is not hurting anyone, and if it is I will of course stop right away.

I love you both.

oh NOOOOOO! please! That has not entered my mind at all! I want to share in your joy.

  

[dgbygrace]

Thank you both! 

We are here at the hospital...but they are sending us home.

It is kinda strange...her whole life I have tried to protect her from pain...this one I can't!  And so hard to judge, lol!   She said it hurt, we came!

[RoseofSharon]

We're all waiting with you here