Stupid Pain

[Humble for Christ]

Hi guys.  Thanks for inviting me over Diane.  I just want to share my all too human feelings about stuff.  It's about emotional pain.  Not just mine but others.  You see people have a lot of baggage, right?   I do too.  It's just a part of life.  Trouble is, folks sometimes go through life and not know about all the baggage that they have.  Then I come along, I have a conversation with someone, all well intended, and God knows my intentions are sincere and neighborly, but for whatever reason, this person misreads me, gets defensive and lashes out.  Then, I'm stunned, like I've been suckered punched, and I'm hurt.

Well, I can only say I'm tired of people and their hang ups because it gets my hangups going.  Christ did say that the love of many shall wax cold from iniquity.  That iniquity is from the mistrust, from broken hearts...what a mess.  Its like an emotional version of the oil spill in the gulf polluting everything.  I cannot wait and hope Jesus comes soon, how He knows it in my heart.  I just want to cry.

Thanks for listening.

Love H4C

[dgbygrace]

Hi guys.  Thanks for inviting me over Diane.  I just want to share my all too human feelings about stuff.  It's about emotional pain.  Not just mine but others.  You see people have a lot of baggage, right?   I do too.  It's just a part of life.  Trouble is, folks sometimes go through life and not know about all the baggage that they have.  Then I come along, I have a conversation with someone, all well intended, and God knows my intentions are sincere and neighborly, but for whatever reason, this person misreads me, gets defensive and lashes out.  Then, I'm stunned, like I've been suckered punched, and I'm hurt.

Well, I can only say I'm tired of people and their hang ups because it gets my hangups going.  Christ did say that the love of many shall wax cold from iniquity.  That iniquity is from the mistrust, from broken hearts...what a mess.  Its like an emotional version of the oil spill in the gulf polluting everything.  I cannot wait and hope Jesus comes soon, how He knows it in my heart.  I just want to cry.

Thanks for listening.

Love H4C

Brother, we are glad yu are here.  We are here and this place came about because of exactly what you are saying.  Here people are respected an loved in Jesus, despite differences in opinions.  Jesus said...we want to do.  And until He comes back for us I do believe He was serious in that we are to love each other in truth and deed.

And it wasn't just me that invited you, Cizz suggested you first and we all !

Prayers that you and all of us may find the love He intended among His children herre.   

[dgbygrace]

I like H4C!   

Your pain is NOT stupid.

Psalm 56:
8You number and record my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle--are they not in Your book?

[peacemaker]

I am still hurting from the treatment of the other church, even though this one we are at arnt at all like that, I find I am having a bigger hard time trusting then I thought I would have.  Yea...HB, I get tired of it too, and when it happens it is very trying!
And it makes me made as well that they leave one with out being able to face them, and tell them how wrong they are!  AS if they arent wrong, but everything about you is!
 


I just want say I understand some of what that is about, and take the time to say you are loved!


 

[Humble for Christ]

I do want to say, peacemaker, there is a difference, at least for me between strangers and people I know and love.  It hurts more coming from people I know and love when they dump on me like I had happened earlier.  With a stranger, I usually just shake it off, but it's different with someone I care for.

That might help you to see it that way, at least for folks you might not know well, it shouldn't bother you, but I don't know what to say when its with someone that is a close friend or a trusted person or a loved family member.  

[peacemaker]

Agreeing...but in that church, I had relastionships, and those that had us kicked out was making it hard on us from the get go. 


I have had that kind of pain you are talking about from family, and it got so bad, and abusive I had to cut off the relastionships I had so they would leave me alone!  The hard thing is they team up in his family against you, and they have against me, and I feel even more alone at times because of it all!


I guess it is a big reason why I had that dream I had about losing my hubby and daugher in a park.  It scared me so back I was shacking.


But you are right...it is hard to deal with it. 

[cizz]

Hi guys.  Thanks for inviting me over Diane.  I just want to share my all too human feelings about stuff.  It's about emotional pain.  Not just mine but others.  You see people have a lot of baggage, right?   I do too.  It's just a part of life.  Trouble is, folks sometimes go through life and not know about all the baggage that they have.  Then I come along, I have a conversation with someone, all well intended, and God knows my intentions are sincere and neighborly, but for whatever reason, this person misreads me, gets defensive and lashes out.  Then, I'm stunned, like I've been suckered punched, and I'm hurt.

Well, I can only say I'm tired of people and their hang ups because it gets my hangups going.  Christ did say that the love of many shall wax cold from iniquity.  That iniquity is from the mistrust, from broken hearts...what a mess.  Its like an emotional version of the oil spill in the gulf polluting everything.  I cannot wait and hope Jesus comes soon, how He knows it in my heart.  I just want to cry.

Thanks for listening.

Love H4C

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It does get harder to shake off the heart breaks, I pray the Lord will keep your eyes and heart opened to why they lash out, from their own pain. The hardest thing is to get away from 'assuming' things to be defensive and I have seen people misread your intentions, so I can only imagine how so one close doing this can hurt. You have a pure heart and an eye for discerning brother. We are blessed with having you here!

[SEVEN THUNDERS]

Hi Dear Bob...

First off, welcome; I'm so glad you're here.  You have always been such a blessing to us all.  We absolutely treasure you.  I want you to know that your pain is our pain.  We are all here for each other, to hold each other up in love and compassion despite the obstacles Life’s road deals each and every one of us.  How can we not grieve and be hurt when people who we care so much for and love “appear” to betray our very trust in them with their deep emotional turmoil via lashing out at us?  But this is a surface perception; it has more dimensional and spiritual implications that are clouded and we don’t usually recognize the true breadth of the situation.  We’re merely nearsighted humans with human emotions and vulnerabilities, and it’s so hard in the midst of such outbursts to remind ourselves that Jesus took the lashes for us and what is done onto us, the least of His, is also done onto Him.  So in this regard we are not to take these things personally, but allow Christ in us to absorb it all and be our Shield; and afterwards through prayer and forgiveness healing and liberation may be set into motion for the sufferer.  Anger, though ugly and detestable, is actually a symptom of “woundedness”, usually rooted in a distant childhood trauma that keeps replicating itself through the sufferer’s lifetime in various forms.  People react defensively and out of anger in an attempt to shield that woundedness we may have unknowingly agitated; and it is embroiled in an awful dread, a dread people are unwilling to confront and face; they react with hostility to protect themselves (the anger is a “defense mechanism”), attempting to thwart exposure of the deeply entrenched pain of that childhood woundedness because it is so utterly unbearable to re-experience.  It would be like DEATH.  When these encounters occur, the Holy Spirit is using you and us as a catalytic tool to expose the woundedness to the “LIGHT” and to extremely needed prayer so that the sufferer can be healed, liberated from the pain and made whole in Christ.  So though our first reaction is to recoil from such an experience and be hurt as a victim of the anger, in reality it is not a negative experience, but a situation clamoring for the attention of the Great Physician in proxy through us, His earthly hands, to bring healing to all in the circle of the drama.  More so, when we pray for someone’s healing then, simultaneously, we are also blessed and healed in the process as well, for the prayer is reciprocated back to us as a blessing, and we will usually experience some major healing or spiritual breakthrough that the Lord had orchestrated specifically for us from the very start of the whole affair.  It is ultimately a win-win situation for all parties involved, if we can only see beyond the musty veil and fog of the drama, hurt, emotions and apprehend this concept and act upon it.  I can personally attest to this principle.  Just my two cents.     

Blessings…

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[RoseofSharon]

  Seven. I was thinking alng those lines as I was reading down.

What I also want to add is this: both within my family and in my circle of friends church etc... I too have experienced such pain and anguish, I thought I'd forgiven so many times and then they'd come and hurt me again and all the old wounds opened up again, until one dy God showed me something that turned me around. I was forgiving them every time, but there was one person who I was not forgiving and that was me. Each time I would kick myself for being in that situation or blame myself for x or y thing. God litterally shook me up and showed me that I had to accept His forgiveness for me and forgive myself for my part, and let go and recognize that not everything is my fault. Once I did that meeting with and socialising with those who hurt me and who get defensive if I say something wrong although still painful was easier to see that it was their problems that are being expressed and not anything personal to me. Learn to firgive yourself and accept that God has aready forgiven you. 

[me2lord]

Well, I can only say I'm tired of people and their hang ups because it gets my hangups going.  Christ did say that the love of many shall wax cold from iniquity.  That iniquity is from the mistrust, from broken hearts...what a mess.  Its like an emotional version of the oil spill in the gulf polluting everything.  I cannot wait and hope Jesus comes soon, how He knows it in my heart.  I just want to cry.

Thanks for listening.

Love H4C

Nice to have you here with us to fellowship and share your good time and bad.     

The love of many is waxing cold and when you get slapped on a cheek for doing good, remember to turn the other cheek to them also....it is humbling.

The Lord said if you do good to those who do good back, what good is it?  It is right when you do good to those who can not do good back...sounds like you're living the WAYS OF Christ.   And yes it is painful at times.   But be of good cheer because the Lord is drawing nearer to coming and you will receive your just reward...all of us will.  lol 

[tsth]

Dear HB,

I just wanted to say welcome....and pull up a hammock under the shade tree.  We've got lemonade and snacks and good fellowship.


And.....


lots of hugs for hurts!

 


I'm sorry.


In His Love,
Suzanne